Divorce apologists: go away

Please, PLEASE spare me the “rebuttal” about how we need divorce so that people can get out of abusive or damaging situations. You know why? It’s because I want to say, “No shit, Sherlock. Wow, you’re brilliant!” (That was sarcasm, by the way.)

Let me ask you a question: who EVER advocated for people to stay in abusive situations? Show me ONE reference. Just one. And it needs to be one that is commonly known. After all, that’s the thrust of your rebuttal–that lots of people like me would remove divorce permanently from the legal landscape.

I hang in some very socially conservative circles, and nobody I know advocates for that.

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Everybody’s daughter, nobody’s daughter

This is the blog of an adult who was raised in multiple divorce-remarriage situations.

This is the blog of an adult who was raised in multiple divorce-remarriage situations.

I’m going to talk about a lot of things that might make some people uncomfortable. If you’re a child of divorce, you might still be in the “divorce fog” and not ready to hear what I’ll say. It took me decades to be willing to admit how f’ed up my childhood was. I didn’t want to admit that I had no family, that I wasn’t a full family member in either of my parents’ homes, that I had to lie on a daily basis.

If you’re a parent who has been divorced and remarried, and made your kid live a double life so that you could be happy, you may not like what I’m going to say.

If you’ve been through those experiences and are ready to move forward with new concepts and new language, I hope you join me. I’ll be talking about some aspects of living as a child of divorce that cry out for exploration. Aspects such as having a fractured ontology and living in a perpetually liminal state. I’ll critique the BS about how great divorce is for kids, and anything else that smacks of approval for the divorce culture. Watch and see–it is going to be like shooting fish in a barrel!