Just because I say nothing…

Just because I say nothing, does not mean I have nothing to say.

Just because I don’t say anything bad about a person or a group, does not mean I have no criticism of the person or the group.

Do not assume my silence equals assent. It may, but then again, it may not. Don’t assume that my compliment about someone means I approve of what they believe. As Archbishop Fulton Sheen said in A Plea for Intolerance:

Tolerance is an attitude of reasoned patience towards evil, and a forbearance that restrains us from showing anger or inflicting punishment. But what is more important than the definition is the field of its application. The important point here is this: Tolerance applies only to persons, but never to truth. Intolerance applies only to truth, but never to persons. Tolerance applies to the erring; intolerance to the error.

I try very hard to distinguish between the person (who was made in the image of God) and what they believe (which may be erroneous or not). They might believe something erroneous, but it is not necessarily my job to point that out to their face. If their erroneous belief causes them to act in a way that is harmful, then I can point out how the action is harmful, and how it may be evidence of an erroneous belief.

But in regards to the person, apart from their behavior, I might be wrong about their error, because there might be important facts of which I am unaware, or, I might be the one who is in error.

I tread carefully, slowly, patiently.

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Author: everybodysdaughter

I'm an adult child of divorce, having been raised in multiple divorce/remarriage situations. I'm writing in order to shed light on the problems of divorce from the perspective of the child. I will also discuss problems with other non-triad family structures, since there is a lot of overlap. People often think that better parenting skills will overcome problems in non-triad arrangements. While I agree that parenting skills are important, they cannot overcome the problems I discuss such as fractured ontology and perpetual liminality. I converted to the Catholic faith in 2012, and will discuss Catholic things from time to time as well.

1 thought on “Just because I say nothing…”

  1. A few months back I was going through a lot. God brought me to the Scripture: “There is a time to speak and a time to stay silent.” As I begin to stay “silent” it all left and I now have peace. It was not as you say, “that I did not have something to say.” I was not that I did not want to defend myself. But by being quiet……….. I soon realized I was trusting God to handle it for me. I trust Him more today then I did months ago. It no longer bothers me to stay “silent.” Thanks for sharing and God Bless, SR

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