Everybody’s daughter, nobody’s daughter

This is the blog of an adult who was raised in multiple divorce-remarriage situations.


This is the blog of an adult who was raised in multiple divorce-remarriage situations.

I’m going to talk about a lot of things that might make some people uncomfortable. If you’re a child of divorce, you might still be in the “divorce fog” and not ready to hear what I’ll say. It took me decades to be willing to admit how f’ed up my childhood was. I didn’t want to admit that I had no family, that I wasn’t a full family member in either of my parents’ homes, that I had to lie on a daily basis.

If you’re a parent who has been divorced and remarried, and made your kid live a double life so that you could be happy, you may not like what I’m going to say.

If you’ve been through those experiences and are ready to move forward with new concepts and new language, I hope you join me. I’ll be talking about some aspects of living as a child of divorce that cry out for exploration. Aspects such as having a fractured ontology and living in a perpetually liminal state. I’ll critique the BS about how great divorce is for kids, and anything else that smacks of approval for the divorce culture. Watch and see–it is going to be like shooting fish in a barrel!

Author: everybodysdaughter

I'm an adult child of divorce, having been raised in multiple divorce/remarriage situations. I'm writing in order to shed light on the problems of divorce from the perspective of the child. I will also discuss problems with other non-triad family structures, since there is a lot of overlap. People often think that better parenting skills will overcome problems in non-triad arrangements. While I agree that parenting skills are important, they cannot overcome the problems I discuss such as fractured ontology and perpetual liminality. I converted to the Catholic faith in 2012, and will discuss Catholic things from time to time as well.

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